Sex Without Pain: A Self-Treatment Guide for a Better Sex Life - Improve Intimacy & Overcome Discomfort for Couples & Individuals

This book played an enormous role in healing from secondary Vaginismus. I had pain for 3 1/2 years and now only rarely. My husband and I took the steps from this book and altered them to include him equally, though the steps are designed to be done alone so anyone can do them. Doing this was empowering and over time we saw more and more progress until the steps were no longer needed and pain became rare. I recommend practicing this book in conjunction with reading When Sex Hurts: A Woman's Guide to Banishing Sexual Pain by Andrew Goldstein, Caroline Pukall, and Irwin Goldstein. I also tried pelvic floor therapy with biofeedback at the same time and while it helped, I found yoga to be more beneficial long term. Through all this I also did counseling and a lot of self-reflection and self-esteem building because this experience sure can break you down like nothing else.It took me 1.5 years just to get a diagnosis and all the while my condition was made worse by doctors who didn't know what they were talking about and were putting me on very strong medications for something I did not have. My doctor made me feel like it was all in my head, and no one I knew understood what I was going through except my husband. It took us one year after reading these books to eliminate the pain, but we persevered and it was so worth it. If you are experiencing pain, stay strong because you can and will get through it. Keep trying because eventually you will find the something that works for you!